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Physical Disability Bingo (crossposted to dot_gimp_snark)

March 17th, 2010 (09:57 am)



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http://www.copleywoods.com/Disability-Comments-Bingo-v2.pdf

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HEADLINE: We hear so many annoying and unpleasant things as physically disabled people. Wouldn't it be nice if we could leap to our feet (or fall out of our chairs) and yell: 'BINGO!' This body of literature is so vast and rich, we decided to divide it into categories for easy reference:

SUBHEAD: General Annoying Ignorance
SQUARES BELOW SUBHEAD:
You're too young to have that problem/use that mobility device/need those painkillers!
You don't look/act disabled!
Are you sure you have [condition]? Do you really need that [mobility device/hearing aid/service dog]?
But you speak/walk/write/ think so well!
I should totally get my pet a vest like that; then I could take him with me everywhere!

SUBHEAD: Smug Superiority/Condescension
SQUARES BELOW SUBHEAD:
Must be nice not to have to walk everywhere/work!
Well, I just don't do sick.
[Talking v-e-r-y s-l-o-w-l-y]
Careful you don't get a speeding ticket on that scooter! Heh, heh, heh.
I wish I could sit down all the time!

SUBHEAD: Astoundingly Stupid Advice
SQUARES BELOW SUBHEAD:
My [acquaintance] had that! She used [panpipes/pesto/ aromatherapy/reiki/satanic chants] and is better now!
Maybe if you'd exercise more, you'd get better!
BOLD: Free Space: YOU'RE SO BRAVE!
If you'd stop being so negative/gave it over to God, you'd be cured!
You don't really have to take those medications. Big Pharma has just convinced you that you do.

SUBHEAD: More Annoying Ignorance
SQUARES BELOW SUBHEAD:
What's wrong with you? Why are you wearing/using those?
Your spouse/parent/ roommate must be a SAINT!
Everyone has SOME sort of disability!
How do you have SEX?
Oh yeah; I have [totally unrelated thing], so I know how hard it is!

SUBHEAD: Outraged Hatred
SQUARES BELOW SUBHEAD:
Being fat isn't a disability!
These parking spaces are for old people!
If you really had X then there's no way you'd be able to do Y.
People with [your disease] are a burden and the reason the government had to raise taxes.
By using [mobility device], you're just letting the illness win!

Comments

Posted by: Friend of the Ood. (bork )
Posted at: March 17th, 2010 03:16 pm (UTC)

I love these!

Posted by: MG Ellington (xjenavivex )
Posted at: March 17th, 2010 03:36 pm (UTC)

You are damn sexy!

Posted by: Stephanie Burgis (stephanieburgis )
Posted at: March 17th, 2010 03:39 pm (UTC)
30s female friends

OMG, yes. I really needed to see this today! Thank you.

Posted by: nightshade1972 (nightshade1972 )
Posted at: March 17th, 2010 03:48 pm (UTC)

I always enjoy your "bingo cards", and this is no exception :-)

Posted by: Dwelling in Probabilities - C. Lundoff's Journal (catherineldf )
Posted at: March 17th, 2010 04:06 pm (UTC)

I love most of these but am a trifle baffled by "Being fat isn't a disability." Speaking as someone who actually is fat, I can't say that in and of itself, it stops me, or even slows me down, from doing much of anything (particularly when compared to my various chemical allergies, for example). People being stupid about their own and by extension, other's people's bodies and the weight thereof, is, of course, another matter.
On the other hand, I'd love to watch someone try and heal themselves from anything other than stress using panpipes and pesto. :-)

Posted by: Haddayr Copley-Woods (haddayr )
Posted at: March 17th, 2010 04:26 pm (UTC)

People who are disabled and also fat (of which there are many; it's easy to pack on the pounds when your mobility is restricted) get this often.

When people see you hobbling slowly along with a cane or going along in a scooter and you happen to be fat, they assume that you need the cane or the scooter BECAUSE you are fat.

Or, they yell it at disabled people who happen to also be fat who use handicapped spaces.

Yep; it's a lovely world we live in!

Posted by: R. Francis Smith (rfrancis )
Posted at: March 21st, 2010 02:23 pm (UTC)

What Haddayr said. Search on "disabled" on Facebook sometime; I did that once looking for, you know, some kind of community and mostly found groups shrieking about fat people (like me) parking in disabled spaces (like I do).

Of course, the fact that you have to have a doctor -- at least here -- apply for the disabled permit for you seems to be lost on them.

Posted by: Clint Harris (wendigomountain )
Posted at: March 17th, 2010 04:51 pm (UTC)
Nausicaa

My wife was recently on a pregnancy forum where one of the posters was discussing how she could not use the hospital in her area because she was obese. They claimed that obese people are a health risk and they would not treat her. This woman now has to drive three hours to the nearest hospital that will take her for delivery.

My wife was pissed and posted a few things back about the ignorance, prejudice, and risk the hospital was putting on this woman. A few lawyers--also pregnant--chimed in, claiming is wasn't discrimination, that not only did fat people have a greater chance of dying, but also were the reason there were so many malpractice lawsuits and why insurance won't cover them. Everyone agreed. Since then, she hasn't gone back.

God damn that infuriated me. That conversation alone was probably worth three or four squares on the bingo chart. The fucking assholes.

Posted by: Haddayr Copley-Woods (haddayr )
Posted at: March 17th, 2010 06:19 pm (UTC)

WOW.

Well, Black folks and American Indians have higher rates of diabetes than other people, so I guess it's not discrimination to refuse to treat them, either. Also, Irish and Jewish people have higher rates of Cystic Fibrosis than the rest of the population, so they shouldn't serve us, either. Smokers should be banned, and so should people with very fair skin because we're just riddled with skin cancer.

None of that is discrimination! It's just all about HEALTH.

Posted by: Jessie (orbitalmechanic )
Posted at: March 18th, 2010 05:54 pm (UTC)

Well, you know, illness is meaningful, race is not. We don't even see race! Just fat.

Posted by: R. Francis Smith (rfrancis )
Posted at: March 21st, 2010 02:26 pm (UTC)

Never mind the recent statistics that demonstrate that being "underweight", at least at older ages, correlates with shorter lifespans than being "overweight". Fat people are just wrong!

Posted by: Jessie (orbitalmechanic )
Posted at: March 17th, 2010 05:36 pm (UTC)

Just saw some beautiful pictures of the Paralympics. I'd say 50% of the comments used the word "inspiring." But you should look at the pictures, because oh my god those prosthetics are SO HOT, and yes the Norwegian men's Paralympic curling team also wears those ridiculous pants.

Posted by: Haddayr Copley-Woods (haddayr )
Posted at: March 17th, 2010 06:20 pm (UTC)

Thank you; I shall.

Did you know there's a movement to integrate the Olympics by the time they come to London? Make it 3 weeks and have all the events together. I like it, even though I'm fairly certain they won't really cover much of the para stuff. Still, I think they should. They're as fun to watch as any other sports.

And THINK of the sob story profiles in-between the action! I think I just heard an NBC exec cream his shorts.

Posted by: Kao (kaowolfie )
Posted at: March 17th, 2010 06:47 pm (UTC)

I would love love love if they would do that. Especially if they play some wheelchair fencing bouts - my older brother is an able-bodied fencer, but many of the competitions I've watched him at also had wheelchair fencing. The action is intense and intricate and a blast to watch.

Posted by: Some people play tennis, I erode the human soul (firni )
Posted at: March 17th, 2010 07:30 pm (UTC)
crabby

I'm going to print that out, and the next time someone says something like "oh, your husband must be a SAINT!" I'll say "I guess I forgot to mention my anger issues" and cuff them to the piano.

Posted by: lauredhel (lauredhel )
Posted at: March 18th, 2010 02:50 am (UTC)

Hi - I love the card, really nicely done!

I sometimes feel like I'm the only one saying this, but no one else has, so here goes: would you consider rewording "Idiotic Advice"? Given that that word is a word rooted in ableism against people with intellectual disabilities?

Thanks.

Posted by: Haddayr Copley-Woods (haddayr )
Posted at: March 18th, 2010 03:12 am (UTC)

Of course; however, since I was so thoughtless in the last incarnation, can I run "dim-witted" past you before I ask Cody to edit it? Or perhaps "Nitwit Advice?"

Posted by: lauredhel (lauredhel )
Posted at: March 18th, 2010 05:32 am (UTC)

Well, 'X-wit' can be pretty problematic also. Thoughtless, maybe? Ill-considered? Half-baked?

Posted by: Haddayr Copley-Woods (haddayr )
Posted at: March 18th, 2010 01:46 pm (UTC)

I actually think "astoundingly stupid" is funnier, anyway. I'm gonna ask Cody to change it.

I really appreciate your speaking up, btw.

Posted by: The Empress of Ice Cream (icecreamempress )
Posted at: March 19th, 2010 07:41 pm (UTC)

"Stupid" also concerns some people, because it has also been used as an official descriptor of people with intellectual and cognitive disabilities in the past.

I myself am still using "stupid" but I see the point of the people who find it a poor choice of words (researching the Big Civil War Novel has definitely put me in touch with its past use as a diagnostic of people with intellectual and cognitive disabilities).

Some other words that fit in that context are "heedless" or "ill-advised" or "thoughtless", so maybe one of those works?

Posted by: Haddayr Copley-Woods (haddayr )
Posted at: March 19th, 2010 07:47 pm (UTC)

I'm still trying to listen about the word "stupid," and Sasha Feather has agreed to sit me down and do some educating at WisCon, but so far I'm not buying that because some people have called people with cognitive disabilities stupid, then it's referring to people with cognitive disabilities. And I'm actually _trying_ to be insulting, because the people using these damn phrases are being really insulting themselves.

I may change it to "shit-for-brains advice" if someone convinces me, but frankly I am a) low on spoons, b) skeptical about this anyway, and c) working with someone else who I'd rather not keep bugging to change the .png.

What's great about Creative Commons, though, is that folks can take it and do with it what they will.

If you have the spoons, inclination, and energy, would you be interested in sharing the history of the word that you uncovered? If so, I'd very much appreciate it and read it carefully. I'm just not there, yet.

Posted by: Sasha_feather (sasha_feather )
Posted at: March 18th, 2010 01:06 pm (UTC)

This post has been linked at Access-fandom. Thank you!

Posted by: Haddayr Copley-Woods (haddayr )
Posted at: March 18th, 2010 03:15 pm (UTC)

Hmmm. Do you feel like removing it for a day?

We're fixing some disablist language I introduced (with "idiot).

Posted by: Sasha_feather (sasha_feather )
Posted at: March 18th, 2010 03:43 pm (UTC)

Sure. Did you see that you were also linked at FWD/Forward?
http://disabledfeminists.com/2010/03/18/recommended-reading-5/
(by lauredhel)

Posted by: Haddayr Copley-Woods (haddayr )
Posted at: March 18th, 2010 04:26 pm (UTC)

Did see it, but it's updated, anyway (although not to your liking; sorry!)

Posted by: Sasha_feather (sasha_feather )
Posted at: March 18th, 2010 08:04 pm (UTC)

It is a great Bingo card! Thanks for your work on this; I will update my links.

Posted by: Haddayr Copley-Woods (haddayr )
Posted at: March 18th, 2010 10:40 pm (UTC)

Sure thing! I would love to talk to you about "stupid" and other language at WisCon. Will you be there?

Posted by: Sasha_feather (sasha_feather )
Posted at: March 19th, 2010 12:55 am (UTC)

Absolutely! I am Access Coordinator this year. :D :D

Posted by: Lisa M. Bradley (cafenowhere )
Posted at: March 18th, 2010 02:27 pm (UTC)
cat

Hey, I've gotten all the ridiculous Advice squares! Alas, no one will ever mistake me for being brave.

Posted by: Haddayr Copley-Woods (haddayr )
Posted at: March 18th, 2010 03:14 pm (UTC)

and FYI, we're changing "idiotic advice" to "astoundingly stupid advice," because, um, being disablist on a disability bingo card is . . . hmmm. What's the nicest word for it? Tacky.

Posted by: Sasha_feather (sasha_feather )
Posted at: March 18th, 2010 03:52 pm (UTC)

Honestly if it were me I'd stay away from "stupid" as well. This came up at a panel I did and stupid is used as a disabling insult too, privileging academic intelligence and speedy thinking, rather than careful thinking. Who are the people that wider society generally thinks of as stupid, and how often does that overlap with disabled people, or other unprivileged groups?

Posted by: Haddayr Copley-Woods (haddayr )
Posted at: March 18th, 2010 04:19 pm (UTC)

Hmmmm. In this case, I'm calling the advice stupid rather than people, and it's never been a clinical description, so I'm sticking with it. However, since this is creative commons, anyone can do whatever they want with it.

Edited at 2010-03-18 04:22 pm (UTC)

Posted by: lauredhel (lauredhel )
Posted at: March 18th, 2010 05:07 pm (UTC)

Hm. Does it matter that it hasn't been a recent clinical descriptor? "Loony" hasn't either, or "gimp" or "spazbrain" or "nutjob" or "dunce". "Stupid" has a pretty clear etymology meaning "mentally slow", and that meaning is retained today.

Posted by: Haddayr Copley-Woods (haddayr )
Posted at: March 18th, 2010 06:14 pm (UTC)

Argh! Listen; I am hearing you, but I am just too tired and stressed to process this right now as well as to change it and ask the guy who made the .png and .pdfs to change it again; hopefully since it's creative commons someone else can re-do it.

Posted by: Sasha_feather (sasha_feather )
Posted at: March 18th, 2010 03:55 pm (UTC)

And it just occurred to me-- Tacky, or tactless, is a great word to use here. Tactless Advice. Other synonyms for impoliteness or lack of regard.

Posted by: Haddayr Copley-Woods (haddayr )
Posted at: March 18th, 2010 04:05 pm (UTC)

It's been changed to "Astoundingly Stupid Advice" now.

Posted by: Loca del Rio Penobscot (ex_voz_lati )
Posted at: March 18th, 2010 05:35 pm (UTC)
thanks

I'm kinda partial to Hunter Thompson's phrasing:

"good advice, if you've shit for brains"

But, I absolutely loved it by any label....thanks.

[oh, the text annotation of the graphic was deeply appreciated.]

Posted by: Haddayr Copley-Woods (haddayr )
Posted at: March 18th, 2010 06:10 pm (UTC)
Re: thanks

:-)

Posted by: balgar (balgar )
Posted at: March 18th, 2010 07:47 pm (UTC)

Outstanding. I don't get the vest reference though.

Posted by: Jesse the K (jesse_the_k )
Posted at: March 18th, 2010 08:48 pm (UTC)
WTF

Almost all working dogs wear brightly colored clothing around their middle to distinguish them from everyday pets.

Although they're not topologically similar, these identifying garments are called vests.

Out-fucking-wonderful, Haddayr et al.

Posted by: Haddayr Copley-Woods (haddayr )
Posted at: March 18th, 2010 10:37 pm (UTC)

Oh! Seeing-eye dogs and other assistance dogs often wear identification vests.

Posted by: Jonquil Serpyllum (jonquil )
Posted at: March 20th, 2010 06:29 pm (UTC)
God BLESS.

I've posted, repeatedly, on my LJ why I don't consider myself brave, yet people insist on replying "But you are brave!"

This is my life. It is what it is.

And the next person who tells me to try acupuncture is getting it right in the chops with one of my tapestry needles. Which are blunt.

Posted by: the Jack (buggery )
Posted at: March 30th, 2010 11:56 pm (UTC)

This is astoundingly awesome.

At least once a year a complete stranger approaches me on the street to urge me to attend their organisation's upcoming "healing service" which is invariably a "limited-time-only" thing, and often actually billed as a "tent revival." (Thanks for assuming anyone using a wheelchair and/or cane is Christian or interested in converting.) I'm always tempted, being a part-time wheelchair user who 90+% of the time has the option to stand and walk (badly) for short distances, to attend, make a big show of standing up out of the chair when they do their laying-on or whatever... and then scream and fall back into the chair.

So far I've never had the spoons. And also been mildly afraid of how ugly a crowd of fundamentalists can turn when faced with something that contradicts their world view.

Posted by: Dammit, Clark's penis is going in *something*. (thete1 )
Posted at: March 31st, 2010 12:12 am (UTC)
holster (LaT)

buggery pointed me here, and -- Lord above, I think I'm going to print this out and paste it on my door. The shit I've had to put up with from people *paid to be my aides* --

Anyway. Thank you!

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